This year has been a journey towards self healing because, as Anne Lamott says, the very best thing we have to offer our children is our own healing. I am still on this journey but intend to begin blogging about it soon. I used to view my healing journey as somehow separate and distinct from my parenting one. Now I am beginning to see these two paths overlap and intertwine like two lovers’ bodies.
In a very paradoxical, pathetic, natural way, we calm ourselves by worrying about others. And obsessing about others keeps us out of our own worry. Black-belt codependents like me use other people as a drug to keep from having to deal with our own aloneness or feelings or care about the world, so that instead of thinking about global warming, you can think about your children’s swim lessons—we think it’s all more manageable. The fact is, it keeps us stoned and worried in obsession. The very most profound thing we have to offer our children is our own healing. -See more at: http://spiritualityhealth.com/articles/anne-lamott-life-black-belt-codependent/page/0/1#sthash.8zbmQARB.dpuf